Being poor, not doing well at university or school, a poor social life, poor self esteem, lack of confidence as we all know is in your head. You have probably heard it all before but it’s worth re-iterating a million times for some people to listen.
All too often we get tied up in thinking that our worth is based on the size of our house or the size of our cars and who we hang around with.
Our worth is based on who we think we are, and our worth is only gauged by ourselves not anybody else.
This is all very well saying this, but how do we stop ourselves from worrying about what other people might think of us?
- We have to decide that we care about us. In other words make a conscious decision, and say it. ‘I come first. I have to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else’. Now this will take a long time to engrain this feeling within us. To do this you will need to make a conscious effort to stop at certain things you do and say ‘I come first’. Maybe when your friend has asked you to do something you are uncomfortable with, stop and say to yourself ‘I come first’ and you will find the courage to say no.
- Say ‘NO’ more often. When that little warning bell goes off in your head and you get that little tingle in your stomach that says ‘something’s not right’ say ‘NO’. You know what I mean and you will have lots of examples. Well that is the time to say ‘NO’. That little two letter word can send your self esteem soaring and gradually build confidence in you. Now I don’t mean you say NO to everything, I don’t want you getting the sack or losing out on a relationship or anything like that. Just say NO when it feels right to say NO.
About the Author: Steven AITCHISON is UK’s #1 Personal Development blogger. With a Facebook following of over 3.2 million and growing, Steven’s mission is to help millions of people around the world better themselves in any way that they can. Steven’s blog is entitled “Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life.” He currently resides in South Lanarkshire, Scotland and hosts live shows on Facebook every weekday at 2pm BST. Read More…