How Do You Deal With Being Stonewalled? By Rachel Russo

Question: My girlfriend stonewalled me! She won’t return any of my calls or texts and she won’t see me. I have no idea what I did wrong because she won’t talk to me! What should I do?

Answer: Ouch! Stonewalling is the worst! It is so tough to move on from relationships for so many of us and not having any “closure” makes it feel even more difficult.

The first thing you need to realize is that this behavior says more about her than you. If she does not have the capability to get in touch with you, she is not ready for the healthy, mature type of relationship that you are.

Ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who can’t give you the type of relationship you deserve. If the answer is “yes”, ask yourself why. If your answer is that you really love her, then try again to reach out to her. Lay your cards on the table and ask her to speak with you. If she refuses, all that you can do-with self-respect in tact-is move forward.

Focus on moving on and meeting other girls when you are ready to. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to force a response from your girlfriend. When she is ready to talk, she will come back to you or respond to you. If not, she’s not the one for you.

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RACHELHEADSHOTAbout the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for twelve years. She currently acts as the resident relationship expert on Brooklyn Savvy Tv, is a matchmaker with Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking, and trains entrepreneurs at Matchmaking Institute. Her drive, credentials, and unique experience make her the ultimate dating and relationship expert. Read More…