Question: What should I do if I like my boyfriend’s friend? I’m 17 and have been dating this kid for almost 6 months. His friend hangs with us most of the time and as it ends up, we have more fun and in common than I do with my boyfriend. I don’t really know if he feels the same way. I never said anything. I know I should probably break up with my boyfriend, but I don’t know if I should ever say anything to his friend or if I should just try to forget it. Any ideas?
Answer: One of the most hurtful things a girl can do to a guy is leave him for his best friend, and it is, of course, even more hurtful if they are caught cheating.
Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of people. It doesn’t mean they are bad people, but it is a bad situation to be in. Do not let it get to that point. You already know what to do.
If you don’t have strong feelings for your boyfriend anymore, you should be honest with him. If it leads to a break up, so be it.
I don’t think you should say anything to your boyfriend’s friend. If he is interested in you down the road, he will pursue you. That is what guys who are interested generally do. He may not want to date his best friend’s ex- girlfriend, so if he doesn’t pursue you, do not take it personally. He may be interested and want to talk to your boyfriend first. Let him take the lead; if he doesn’t, move on–without ruining their friendship.
If it’s not this guy, there will be another guy you can have fun with soon enough! Good luck!
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