Question: My friend is dating a real jerk who tried to get with me. My friend thinks he’s the best thing that happened to her. I don’t even know how to tell her. I don’t want her to think it was me. She thinks he’s perfect. I’m sure he hits on others too. Any advice?

Answer: So sorry to hear that you and your friend are both in a difficult position!  I feel it is admirable that you want to tell her, even though it can be a challenging conversation.

The best thing to do is to just be honest with her.

Let her know your fear–that you are even worried to bring it up because you wouldn’t want to risk the friendship with her thinking you initiated something.

Tell her that you are sharing this with her because you care about her and you don’t want to see her get hurt by a guy who could likely be trying to get involved with other girls.

Remind her that she deserves better than that! Keep in mind, she may not be willing to listen to you–or listen to you right away. Some girls want to believe what they want to believe about their boyfriends.

Just know that you did the right thing and try to be her friend in whatever way you can.

Good luck!

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About the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for twelve years. She currently acts as the resident relationship expert on Brooklyn Savvy Tv, is a matchmaker with Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking, and trains entrepreneurs at Matchmaking Institute. Her drive, credentials, and unique experience make her the ultimate dating and relationship expert. Read More…

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