Question: My boyfriend has to go to Germany for the next four years. I can’t even imagine staying here without him. How do I deal with this?
Answer: So sorry to hear that your boyfriend is leaving. I know how difficult it is to be away from someone you love for even a short time. Four years away could be incredibly challenging to maintain a long distance relationship, but it is certainly possible.
You should have a heart to heart talk with your boyfriend about both of your expectations and how you will manage the distance.
You should talk about how frequent communication will be and how often the two of you will visit. With this distance, frequent visits may not be possible, so be sure to schedule plenty of video calls.
While he is away, it will be very important for you to focus on your own hobbies and interests as well as have a strong support system.
Stay positive and realize that if you two are meant to be together, you will get through this!
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About the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for twelve years. She currently acts as the resident relationship expert on Brooklyn Savvy Tv, is a matchmaker with Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking, and trains entrepreneurs at Matchmaking Institute. Her drive, credentials, and unique experience make her the ultimate dating and relationship expert. Read More…