Question: I’ve been in a relationship for three years. Both of us love each other a lot but a few months ago, I found out my boyfriend was chatting with other girls on Facebook. I also caught him in some lies. He was hiding things from me and our relationship took a big hit over it. Now I am insecure and don’t trust him. He tries to make me happy but I just can’t help not being able to trust what he says anymore. I love him a lot and don’t want to be without him but should I move on? Please help.
Answer: Sorry to hear that you are struggling with your boyfriend. Trust is the foundation of a relationship and without it, it is very difficult to have a successful, happy, healthy relationship.
Your insecurity is normal considering what happened. The only way you should stay together is if your boyfriend is taking consistent action to prove that he’s faithful and honest. If he’s doing this and you still can’t shake those feelings, it may be time to end things.
If he’s incapable of proving himself to you, you should end it sooner.
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