About 10 years ago, I went through a painful breakup with someone who—I found out after dating for close to a year—hadn’t wrapped up the small detail of “getting a divorce” like he’d said; AND…. had been going to couples therapy with his not so ex wife behind my back the whole time we were dating, and I was getting on an airplane trekking from L.A. to New York.
No matter how many showers I took, I couldn’t wash off the feeling of being slimed. Have you ever touched slime? Unlike dirt, it’s really hard to wash off. Although I’d had some tough breakups in the past…I’d never had the wool pulled over my eyes before. If I were to bump into any of my exes up until now, we’d hug it out and say hello. But there was a whole new dynamic going on here, one that involved a love triangle that left me feeling dirty and angry and stuck. I didn’t know how to get detangled out its web.
One thing that helped pull me out was the mediation below on releasing anger. In my previous article, I offered a meditation on not picking the wrong guy. So I thought this month would be a great follow up, if you’d already picked the wrong person. Even if you aren’t experiencing a breakup, we all have some compartmentalized anger lingering in our body and mind. Don’t let the anger fester. Get it out. And remember, there’s hope. I’m happily married now!!
The below exercise should be done at night. It will leave you feeling a little tired. It’s only 3 minutes and should be done for 40 days straight. It’s very powerful.
MEDITATION FOR RELEASING ANGER & NEGATIVITY
(From the Yogi Bhajan Library)
Sit in Rock or Easy Pose, with light jalandhar bandh (neck lock). Eyes are closed.
Mudra: Touch each thumb to the base of the Mercury (pinky) fingers. Close the rest of the fingers over the thumbs to form fists. Raising the arms, begin a backstroke type movement over the head, alternating each side (RightLeft) as you swing up, over and back around again, just like you are doing the backstroke in a swimming pool.
Breath: Through 0-shaped mouth, begin strong, rhythmic inhale/exhale in sync with arm movements. The breath becomes a breath of fire through the mouth. Keep the lips in an 0 shape throughout the meditation.
The mudra, movement and breathing are continuous and strong.
Intentionally think about anything and everything that makes you angry, weird, negative, or commotional. Continue this laser focus on bringing up the anger and negativity throughout the meditation, increasing the movement and breath. Continue this movement for 3 minutes.
To End: Interlock the fingers, stretch the arms up over head, palms facing up, deep inhale through the 0 mouth– picture yourself surrounded in white, healing light– hold the breath for 10 seconds, exhale out the 0 mouth. Repeat this ending breath 3 times.
About the Author: Amy K. LAMPE is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Certified Kundalini Yoga Instructor, Marketing Director, Writer, and Blogger based in Scottsdale, Arizona. After completing an acting program at the American Conservatory Theatre in San Francisco, Amy moved to Los Angeles and enrolled in the famed Playhouse West Conservatory Program. Within a year, she booked a small movie role in an independent film and landed several national TV commercials, including Budweiser. Read More…