Question: My boyfriend broke up with me last week and I’m pretty sure it’s for good because he already has another girlfriend. We were together 2 years and he just said he didn’t want to be with me anymore. It hurts so bad. Is there an easy way to get over someone? I can’t stop thinking that there’s something wrong with me.
Answer: So sorry to hear that your relationship ended and that you are hurting. Breakups are tough for all of us. It can feel even worse when your ex has quickly seemed to move on. Keyword: “Seemed”. Just because he has someone else to distract him does not mean he’s “over” you or has forgotten all about you.
Keep in mind: The fact that he has a new girlfriend actually has nothing to do with you. It just means he’s someone who jumps quickly from one relationship to the next. The best thing to do now is to focus on you–on healing yourself. Take care of yourself. Work out, eat right, do things you love, see your friends and family regularly. Seek coaching or therapy if you are struggling.
About the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for twelve years. She currently acts as the resident relationship expert on Brooklyn Savvy Tv, is a matchmaker with Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking, and trains entrepreneurs at Matchmaking Institute. Her drive, credentials, and unique experience make her the ultimate dating and relationship expert. Read More…