Choices, choices…

Success and happiness tend to go hand and hand, but you have to define what would make you feel successful and happy. Sometimes success and happiness will lead you in two different directions.

For example, you may find that your current situation makes you happy, but starting a new job or relationship may mean you have to give up some things in order to step up to your new challenges. You should always consider what is more important to you at that time.

While financial success can be appealing, the happiness which comes from personal success often lasts longer and feels better.

Set Your Happiness Goals

Life can be frustrating or seem meaningless at times: get up, go to school or work, eat, sleep, repeat! You should set some key goals in order to find happiness and success. Take time to consider what kind of life you want to have. We are all different, so ask yourself: what would make me truly happy?

Be intentional about setting goals for yourself. Break your goals into smaller, bite-sized pieces and aim for those steps which lead you toward the bigger goal.

Be flexible. You may change your mind about reaching certain goals as you learn more about yourself and the goals you’ve set. Your priorities may change because you’ve taken a new job or started a new relationship. That’s okay. Changing your mind isn’t giving up or failing, it’s about being agile and adaptable. Adjust your goals to reflect your updated ideals.

Just Do Happy

Happiness and success do take some practice. What daily behaviors will make you feel great?

Right now, close your eyes and think of three things which you want to accomplish on your journey toward being happy and successful.

Jot them down. Begin by thinking of small steps and actions that will help you achieve the things you really want.

Place your list somewhere you can see it on a daily basis. Hang it next to the bathroom mirror or on your refrigerator or next to your computer monitor. Do something every day that will help you achieve your goals.

Being happy and successful are possible for everyone, but the definitions of happiness and success also differ from person to person. Don’t get distracted by trying to achieve goals that other people value. Life is too short. Do you! Make sure you identify and revisit what’s important to you and spend your time and energy pursuing the individual path which will take you toward your own happier future.

About the Author: Ingrid KELADA, Monthly Mentor, is an experienced psychologist, speaker and happiness expert. As a speaker, she has facilitated over 1000 workshops around the world. People find her to be pragmatic, inspiring and funny! With over 25 years experience, Ingrid offers her expertise to a wide range of clients. She is bilingual and a member of the professional association of Psychologists of Quebec, Canada. Ingrid is also the Author of 21 Days to Happiness. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed and frustrated or just want to increase your happiness, Ingrid teaches you how to be happier in just 10 minutes per day. Read More…

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