Do you find yourself rejecting another person’s generosity or kindness? Yeah I hear you! I did too in my teens and probably around another billion people on this planet have issues with accepting generosity too.
A lot of people don’t have any trouble giving gifts or dishing out compliments, but when it comes to receiving these things, they find them difficult to accept. You must start realising that you are worth the generosity that people offer you, and you are also worthy of the compliments that you receive from them.
When somebody gracefully compliments you, accept it by simply smiling and saying, “thank you.” This may take some practice, but it is a social skill worth learning. You see, by not accepting their compliments and generosity, you are basically saying to yourself that you are not worthy of what this person is trying to give you. As a result, the person who is being generous may take offence and think that you are being ungrateful towards them.
In addition to accepting generosity, it is also a good idea to be generous and give compliments and gifts to people, too. Don’t be too skimpy on birthday gifts and occasion gifts for people. The more generous you are, the more compliments you will receive from that person and the better you will feel for giving. This works in harmony with your higher power and the more we give, the more we shall receive.
You will also notice that being kind to people will attract more positive people to you, which could work in your favour by bringing more opportunities to yourself.
If you are in a position where you give compliments to somebody and they don’t seem to be as grateful for them as you would be, don’t take offense. After all, you can’t make that person be as generous—or as grateful—as you. People cannot be changed by you, so don’t waste your time trying. You know that it’s up to you to become a better you. It’s the same for everyone else.
Today, I am going to give you a little exercise to complete so that you can go along your journey and really strengthen your ability to accept compliments and generosity from people.
Exercise: Try this the next time you are at a social gathering or in conversation with someone. I would like you to offer compliments at least three times within that conversation. Tell them something nice. Tell them how happy you are for them, and tell them that you hope something works out for them. Then make a note of the compliments you made and the answers you received and date them below.
Name of the person I complimented today:
The compliments I gave to them:
The answers I received:
Do this in every social situation and make notes for around 6 months and see how different your social surroundings become. You will notice changes in the way you start talking to people.
Last note: I want you to take away just one thing today if you don’t take away anything else, and that is you are worthy of living in full confidence and being happy, lit up and feeling alive inside. It’s your birth right to be full of joy, and you deserve every moment of it.
About the Author: Kate BATTEN is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a #1 International Best-Selling Author, Editor in Chief of The Missing Piece Magazine, and Publisher of the International Best-Selling Book Series The Missing Piece. As a coach, Kate helps business owners grow their platforms by teaching them how to publish, market and sell their books to international best-seller status. Kate has had the honor and pleasure of consulting TV personalities and award-winning Hollywood film directors. Read more…