Should I Date My BFF’s Crush? By Rachel Russo

Question: What do I do when I wanna date my BFF’s crush? I recently started crushing on the same guy, but I don’t know if he likes me or not. I think there might be a chance he does because he wrapped his arm around me and always tries to impress me.

Answer: If your relationship with your best friend is important to you, and it seems like it is, you may want to reconsider this.

Do you think he wants to date you too? Do you see it working out? Or is it possible that this was just flirting? Or that a relationship with your crush would be a lot more short-lived than your friendship?

If you think it is worth risking your friendship, do everything you can to avoid hurting your friend. Sit down and have an honest conversation with her about how you feel about this guy and how she feels in response. Then base your decision off of that.

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RACHELHEADSHOT.jpgAbout the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for twelve years. She currently acts as the resident relationship expert on Brooklyn Savvy Tv, is a matchmaker with Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking, and trains entrepreneurs at Matchmaking Institute. Her drive, credentials, and unique experience make her the ultimate dating and relationship expert. Read More…


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