Almost everybody talks about other people when they’re not there. (Almost everybody is talked about as well.)
I won’t demonize this behavior, AND I believe we all learn a great deal from analyzing the behavior of others.
But we so easily and casually mention the character defects of others, as if we barely recognize he/she is a person with feelings.
I’m guilty too.
If you want a training lesson in compassion and increasing your capacity in relationships, the next time you’re talking about somebody that’s not there…pretend they are there. Silently sitting and listening to what you have to say about them.
Be curious about the expressions on their face and what they might experience if they heard what you’re saying about them.
Would they want to be closer to you, or never talk with you again?
Decide if the other person is important to you.
Begin doing this invisible thing, starting today, and you will create a miracle out of nothing.
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About the Author: Derek HART is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Relationship Coach, Speaker, Writer, and the founder of UnderstandEachOther.com based in San Anselmo, California. He has been counseling people since 1990, with over 27,000 hours in experience. The unique experience he brings to his counseling practice is based upon years of doing his own deep inner work. A student and teacher of the human journey, Derek has continually studied the great works of the top psychology and spiritual masters of our time. Read More…
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