Question: How do I break up with a girl that I really care about? I don’t want to hurt her but I just don’t want to go out anymore? How do I tell her without hurting her too much? Are there any words I can say that will make it easier for her?
Answer: How sweet of you to be so considerate of this girl’s feelings!
Breakups are hard no matter what, but your willingness to do so as painlessly as possible will make a difference. I would suggest that you talk to her in person, if possible. Second best would be on the phone.
You can start off by giving her a compliment and telling her what you have enjoyed about the relationship. Make this genuine–just speak from the heart.
Then tell her that you don’t think the relationship will work out for you for the long term and that you think it is best to stop dating. You can provide her with a basic reason as to why, but you don’t have to go into details.
You can then end on a positive note–by wishing her luck in the future and reassuring her that everything will be okay and work out for the best.
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About the Expert: Rachel RUSSO, MS, MFT is one of Your Monthly Mentors, a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for twelve years. She currently acts as the resident relationship expert on Brooklyn Savvy Tv, is a matchmaker with Lisa Clampitt Matchmaking, and trains entrepreneurs at Matchmaking Institute. Her drive, credentials, and unique experience make her the ultimate dating and relationship expert. Read More…
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