One of the most important and sometimes difficult decisions that we have to make in life is who we will and will not travel through life with. Relationships are the most complex aspects of our lives. They weave in and out of our inner emotions, outer environments and extend themselves into our other relationships and experiences.
Very often, once these relationships weave in and out of one another, they are much harder to disentangle from. Should one of the relationships become destructive, non-supportive, abusive or simply hindering or unhappy, it becomes difficult to unravel.
If you plan to be happy and successful, you are going to have to subtract relationships with those who do not treat you well, complain every chance they can, are always upset or angry about something or someone, or that want to bring you down emotionally simply because they are.
It is not cold-hearted or selfish to let go of negative groups of people or individuals that do not bring out your positive emotions and qualities, raise you higher, or make you happy and proud of who you are as an individual.
It is essential!
“It doesn’t take a lot of strength to hang on. It takes a lot of strength to let go.” – J. C. Watts, American politician from Oklahoma who was a college football quarterback for the Oklahoma Sooners.
If you are looking for your own happiness, it stands to reason that you must look at and give yourself permission to follow your own likes and dislikes and surround yourself with those who will support your decisions and encourage you to climb even higher.
Allow yourself the right to be picky when choosing your friends. Who we spend the most time with is the type of person we will eventually become most similar to.
Make sure you are spending time with people who have the qualities that you want to acquire. Search for mentors and the type of people who you want to be like. For example, if you want to be a writer, join a writers group. If you want to be an athlete, join a team and surround yourself with other athletes. If you would like to become an entrepreneur, join online business groups or talk to local business owners and ask lots of questions AND… if you want to be a kind and honest person who is respected by many, surround yourself with kind and honest people who deserve your respect.
It will always be your choice to determine who you will and will not travel through life with.
Choose wisely… for you will ultimately become a reflection of them when you decide to look in the mirror.
Consider reading “Finding Your Career Path in Life”.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker.
About the Author: Michelle C. Ustaszeski-Hutchinson is the Founder of The Teen Mentor, LLC, a Personal Development Expert, and the Author and Content Director of The Total Mind Development™ Program. Her mission is to educate Teens and Young Adults about the important stuff that they don’t learn in school and facilitate the sharing of wisdom from one generation to the next. Read more by and about Michelle here.